Who do you choose to surround yourself with? Have you carefully thought through the need to have people who want to see you grow as an important part of your life or are you stagnating with friends and associates who focus on the negative aspects of their lives and yours? Do you have a group of people who are happy, even eager, to listen to your ideas and help you to take your dreams to the next step? Or are you sorely lacking in that department, choosing to stay stuck in the rut of same ole same ole without challenging the status quo of finding those people who will push you to be the best you can be?
One of my favorite quotes is,“Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.” Stalin said of his enemies,”We don’t let them have ideas. Why would we let them have guns?” Ideas and creativity are among the most important elements of life, along with the ability to grow these ideas, play with them, discard them, get messy with them. If you don’t have that support network, and you are ready to pursue a more fulfilling life, then it is time to get off of the pot. You are the one stuck there. Only you can make a change.
The first change must come from within you. There is no secret to the law of attraction. You attract what you demonstrate, what you “put out”, what you exhibit. If you want more positive interaction in your life, be more positive to others with your words and your actions. If you want more creativity, be more creative. Pick up a project you started long ago, or start a new one. Take a class, or research instructions on the internet. Understand that creativity is messy. So are ideas.
If you want to focus on changing your life, start by making a list of your priorities. Make them real. Don’t write down what you wish was important to you. Start with being honest with yourself. If you want your finances to be on the top three, but you are currently bouncing checks or have less income than outgo, write that down. Figure out how you really spend your time, and understand that these things are high on your personal priority list. Right now this is the case. And begin slowly to change that. I have never been good with finances. So I have started – with Quicken and a daily look at my bank account. I am making myself think three times before a purchase. I recognize that I have an “issue” with clothes shopping, which likely has a self esteem basis. So I’m making it a priority by spending time daily on the awareness of how I use my money. It doesn’t increase the amount, yet it does. The psychological change is huge, and that starts the inner change.
I realize that this post is a little all over the place, but every element is important in developing your mindset to make a change. Lasting changes don’t come quickly. But you have to find out how long they take for you – to really make a change. It takes me a year to to make a new habit. So I know that this financial improvement will take a year. And I’m willing to make the commitment.
If you want more compliments, give more. If you need more interest from others in your life, be more interested in theirs. If you want to be in better shape, start walking. And keep walking. And when you realize you have fallen off of your personal wagon of change, just get back on. Be kind to yourself, be your own best friend, but encourage changes in yourself. Just do it. A year from now you will find yourself in a different spot, with new friends, perhaps encouraging old friends, and in a much happier place. It works.